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Create Your Now Archive 7 with Kristianne Wargo

Apr 30, 2022

Being good friends is easy. But being married is quite the opposite. Have a marriage that sizzles as you learn how to become your spouse's soul mate.

Many people are going to grumble with the simple fact that soul mates are not created; they are found.

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But today, I want you to look at being a soul mate in a different way.

What if soul mates were created? What if you could become your spouse's soul mate? How would that impact your marriage?

  • Fewer arguments, deeper understanding
  • Less confusion, more compatibility
  • Fewer complaints, greater compassion

If you were to take a poll as to how people view marriage and soul mates, they would describe it as two people who are "built" for one another coming together to do life.

However, this way of thinking is so narrow-minded for what marriage is. Marriage is the coming together of two people who are willing to do the work to get to know each other at the deepest levels and do life together.

It's not about the false expectations of you are who you are; no one has to change, and we are now soul mates.

That's not real life, and that's not a great marriage. Our incredible marriage that my husband and I have now came at the cost of almost losing each other in a divorce. Yes, that's our story; a roller-coaster that led us to become soul mates.

So you, too, can become your spouse's soul mate. But it means doing what everyone says is impossible.

The K.I.S.S. ~ Do what's impossible!

A fantastic marriage (or whatever adjective you want to use to describe an incredible marriage) doesn't come easy. First, you have to be willing to do the work daily and do what's impossible.

  1. Compassion, not compatibility. If you and your spouse took a test, you would not match up in many categories. And this is good! You want to be who God created you to be, as so should your spouse. But want you want to focus on is compassion, not compatibility. Marriage is not trying to be exactly alike, but to embrace the differences with compassion, therefore supporting the differences.
  2. Listen more than you argue. You are going to disagree. In fact, you are going to even question at times if you married the right person. To draw closer to your spouse, you need to listen more so you can hear your spouse's heart and head. What is going on upstairs really does matter. But if you keep trying to convince him/her to be like you, the only thing that will grow deeper is friction.
  3. Joy-filled versus happiness-driven. Joy is discovered not through your spouse, but through God and your personal walk with Him. However, it's easy to use joy and happiness interchangeably. If you think your spouse is going to make you happy, think again. Your spouse cannot give you everything you need. Only God can. So don't be happiness-driven. Instead, be joy-filled.

Now, this just the beginning of the simple things in marriage. The real work happens when you choose to love your spouse every day.

"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"


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Music by Mandisa - Overcomer

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